We know that it is best for the children if the parents continue to raise the children jointly after their divorce. You may not be partners anymore after divorce, but you are still co-parents. This will be difficult, certainly in the beginning, but we know how to help you and our approach is focused on limiting the damage for the children inasmuch as possible.
More information for parents
A divorce is always hardest on the children. Not only because their lives will change drastically, but also because the parents (often unintentionally) put pressure on the children or burden them with their own problems, without realizing what they are doing. Villa Pinedo is a foundation committed to the position of the child in a divorce. Their website provides much information for divorcing parents about the pitfalls and issues which can be perceived as burdensome by children. The open letter to all divorced parents of Villa Pinedo provides a useful guideline from the perspective of the child. The girl in the clip voices this beautifully…
We always believe that each parent wants the best for his or her child. For us, the child takes centre stage in a divorce. We provide advice and guidance, and determine, together with the parents, what is needed to keep the parents strong and to continue complementing each other. Our aim is to strengthen the position of the parents and to help them to differentiate between ex-partnership and co-parenting. We feel that it is important to involve the children and to consider their needs at a very early stage of the divorce, in a manner which they can cope with and is suitable for them. Children want to be made to feel ‘that they matter’ in this situation and that they form part of the divorce process as well. They too are frightened, worried and sad. They too deserve attention without feeling pressured. We can help you, as we are very experienced in conducting conversations with children.
More information for children
If your parents are going through a divorce, your world will be turned upside down. It is a very sad event in your life and much will change. But mummy and daddy will always remain your parents and both of them will always love you. They do need to make arrangements about how they are going to organise everything. For that to happen, we want to hear from you; we want you to tell us about your needs and what you think is important.
It will help you if you can talk about it with someone. Maybe you can tell your friends, grandparents or your teacher at school. There is another place you can turn to, and that is Villa Pinedo. This is a foundation for children of divorced parents. On their website, you can tell your story, read advice and contact other children of divorced parents. You will also find information which you can show to your parents, if you want to.